The Feelings We Don’t Talk About

Let’s talk about the kind of feelings you don’t post online.

The ones that sit deep inside you quiet, steady, and always there.

Sometimes they hurt.

Sometimes they give you strength.

But either way, they’re real.

And they shape your days more than anyone knows.

You probably know what I mean. That moment you’re laughing with friends, but inside there’s a tightness you can’t explain. Or when you finally have a free day, and instead of feeling happy, you feel… flat. Tired.

Maybe even sad.

That’s not random.

Most of us carry emotions that aren’t just ours. They’ve been passed down.I call them generational patterns.

It’s the way your parents handled conflict.

It’s how your grandparents dealt with stress or avoided emotion.

It’s the beliefs they lived by the silent rules.

And without realising it, you might still be living by them today.

Patterns like:

• “Don’t show weakness.”

• “Keep going, no matter how you feel.”

• “You’re only worthy if you achieve something.”

Sound familiar?

These patterns run deep. They influence how you see yourself, how you handle relationships, how you deal with failure everything.

But here’s the thing: you can reset them.

That doesn’t mean blaming your parents. It means recognising what’s been handed to you —and deciding what you no longer want to carry.

You get to choose what stays and what stops with you.That’s real power. Not the loud kind, but the kind that slowly changes everything.

So if you feel like your emotions are running you if sadness is winning over joy, if anxiety keeps showing up when you try to rest maybe it’s time to look deeper.

Not just at your life, but at the lives that came before you.

What are you still carrying that doesn’t belong to you?

And more importantly…

What would it feel like to finally let it go?

You don’t have to have it all figured out. But the moment you start asking different questions the moment you stop pretending you're “fine” and start getting honest with yourself that’s when things begin to shift.

Not overnight. Not perfectly. But honestly.

And that’s where real change begins:

Not by becoming someone else,

but by finally coming home to yourself.

Matteo Nave

www.matteo-nave.com